Showing posts with label cheating in relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cheating in relationship. Show all posts

Friday, August 31, 2012

author: teepot
We often find ourselves in situations wherein we can’t take it anymore and the thought of giving up, of letting go, is somehow the only thing left to do. We all know breaking up with a guy isn’t easy. The thought of telling him that you don’t want to be in a relationship with him anymore and the guilt of hurting his feelings just kills you inside because you know that there was a time he was the only reason behind your smile.

Tough decisions are called tough because they’re not easy to make. It’s not easy to regret because once it’s done, it’s done. We can never take back the things we’ve said and we can try to fix things but they will never be the same way ever again. So it’s better to think things over before actually doing them. First of all, why do you want to break up with him? You need to keep in mind that your boyfriend has feelings and compared to bones, human emotion is much more, much, much, more fragile. Make sure that your reason is valid if you know what I mean. In other words, once you break up with him, because of your reason, he would actually understand why you’re doing it which is better since it will leave no room for any arguments. 


Wednesday, August 15, 2012


Love life: Ready, set, not yet! Why not now?
by: Teapot

When it comes to things such as love, rushing into it isn't such a good idea. In every aspect, rushing when it comes to love is a really bad idea no matter what the reason. Whether it may be peer pressure, sexual frustrations, insecurity, or even if you think you're already old and that you need a partner pronto. Love is something that comes to you. It doesn't happen instantly. That's why there are "love stories" because a lot of things happen before it comes. When someone asks your love story and you're like "Uhh, I don't know. I saw her, she looked good, and then I fell in love with her and that's it." The person listening  to you would instantly think that your relationship doesn't have a good foundation and will conclude that sooner or later, your relationship will collapse.
Here's the thing, love isn't made for just boyfriend or girlfriend, or sex, it is made for something beyond that. It is made for marriage. The thought of being with someone for the rest of your life. Being there, not giving up on that person no matter what. In good times and in times of complete hopelessness. If you don't see your current boyfriend or girlfriend as your future husband or wife, then let go. Maybe you're thinking, what if she's really the one? But in the long run, we must always think of what’s best for us and what’s best for the one we love.

Saturday, June 16, 2012

What are your steps if you are in love with your best friend? This is a very popular scenario in most friendship; you feel in love and don’t know what to do.  If you are in love with your best friend and if you are going let it out the feelings, there are two possible outcomes that you probably experience. The first is that he or she will say the same feelings as yours and the other one is that he or she might tell you the opposite of the first that he or she does not have any romantic feelings for you and this could end up a good friendship in most cases.  This is what we called crossing the line from the friendship border and what ever outcomes you will face from telling your feelings, there is a possibility that you might lose the good friendship that you share with him or her.  It is very clear that crossing the line is a risk so you have to think it over and over again before doing so.

The perfect relationship guidance to deal with such situation is to give some time to ponder things first before making any move of expressing your feelings.  Take your time in understanding whether your feelings for her or him are really true or is it just a fascination.  Try to ask your self "Am i really in love with my best friend?" then here are reliable signs of being in love which will help you to outline out your feelings to your best friend.

Am I really in Love to My Best Friend?  Know the Signs of Love

if you are really in love to your best friend try to find out whether it is just a physical attraction or really emotional.  Having a close friend we show care and physical attraction, that emotionally we have reservations and limitations.  But if you truly care for your best friend's well being, you will make ways to make him or her happy and if you feel if you are a kind of friend who will do everything for her happiness then most likely you are in love.

When you are in love with someone, the other person is always on your mind. Thinking about the moments you two spend together invariably brings a smile to your face. You remember each and every of his likes, dislikes, whims, etc. When you go out, you make plans keeping the other person's interests in mind. If you feel you are doing the same, it is one of the signs that you are falling for your best friend.

It is frequently seen that people who are in love want to appear their best, particularly when they meet the person they are falling for. If you started to change your fashion and style just to impress her or him, then you have started to have those great feelings of Love.

Most likely we trust our friends it’s very common we trust our best friends, but still we keep some of our secrets. But when started to openly share everything to her or him good or bad news, when your trust and faith to her or him has no limitations or reservations or no limits, then that is something to do with your emotional feelings to your best friend.
And lastly you usually support your best friend when he or she is in love to someone. But when you started to feel jealousy and annoyance from the constant show of attraction from the 3rd party, then you are in love my friend.
The point here is how long you are going to hide your feelings to your best friend?  If you think you are best for her or him face the risk and say the words – I LOVE YOU.
There people who regrets the opportunity in their lives for not telling their feelings to their best friends and they ended in an unsatisfying relationship.  Love has no limits and no boundaries it is not designed for those believe in love at first sights or whatever, but sometimes love comes and grow from friendship.  So face the risk and express your feelings to her or him. 

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

We all say that love is the reason why two people stick together, but if love starts moving to somebody else, well its gonna be a big problem.  The feeling of losing  your feelings to your partner (boyfriend or girlfriend)  is the reason why there are so many cheating cases happening in this world.  Love is the food in every relationship we should always feed it with affection, understanding, care, etc.  If love is gone anything could happen that will surely destroy the wonderful relationship you have.  So if your feeling starts fading then be responsible not to give up so easily on your relationship, there is always a solution and there is always a way to bring that feelings alive again.  So here are great stories about how to handle situation like this.
Here are reliable answers from our friends online on how to handle yourself when your love one is in love to someone else:
She seems unsure as to act on her feelings even though she most likely knows how you feel too. She probably does like someone else because it is possible but i would wait if you really want to be with her. If she is sure that she would want to be with you she would not hold back and so she is unsure at the moment.
Just wait for her and if you do, she'll definitely come around to find that you are willing to wait for her.

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I'm the girl in your situation. I'm in love with someone but i cant have him and i know that. its almost impossible for me to think about liking anyone else but finally i found a guy that i think i may really actually like, so i told him my situation. I'm obviously not going to fall out of love with the other guy immediately but having a new guy to get to know and have fun with is really helpping me move on from my first love. I'm not using him by any means...i actually really do like him and he understands whats going on with me. give her time...she does like you and she will eventually get over the other guy. just make sure you don't hurt her.
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It's possible to love someone who loves someone else. It happens all the time. It's not a healthy situation to be in and can be quite miserable. Look at it this way. There is someone out there who would love for you to love THEM. If the one you are in love with now loves someone else there's nothing you can do. He or she may be in that very situation too for all you know - the person he or she loves may love someone else. You deserve to be loved just like everyone else and while I know you can't just suddenly stop loving someone you have to live your life the best that you can. Get out and enjoy your life, socialize, try your best to have fun. If the relationship is meant to be it eventually will be. But in the meantime don't stop living your life for this person. I wasted over two years of my life for someone who couldn't care less about me, was almost ruined financially because he caused me to lose my job, I was forced to take a horrible job (no other jobs were available) wherein I was required to work hundreds of hours overtime in a year and never got paid for it (not yet at least), and was the subject of verbal abuse and intimidation at the horrible job I had to take in order to support myself. I walked around in a fog - in LaLa Land, totally in love with the person and making excuses for his behavior. I never did anything wrong to deserve what I got. Never got an explanation. No apology. Nothing. I finally realized that he was rocking along enjoying his life, doing well in his career, and probably never gave me a second thought after drop-kicking me into the twilight zone. So try this: Place a value on yourself. Realize that you deserve love, you are capable of loving someone, and you have a lot to offer someone. Do not waste your time mooning over someone who is probably off enjoying his life with someone else. This doesn't mean you are supposed to instantly stop loving that person but over time you will learn to live with it and will move past it. Someone eventually will come along who WILL love you, appreciate you, and will sweep you off your feet! I've heard of a country song (I'm not a country music fan) but it's called Thank God for Unanswered Prayers. I've never even heard all of the song but I can say from experience that it's a good title. There have been so many times that I was grateful a few prayers of mine weren't answered as I found out later that the job I really, really wanted ended up being a horrible job with a horrible boss and a high turnover - they couldn't keep one single person there. Another time was over a guy. I was in my early 20s. I thought he was "it on a stick." I found out much later that what he pretended to be and what he actually was were two totally different things. I was very thankful that prayer wasn't answered too. Life is too short. Live your life as best you can. Things will work out the way they are supposed to.
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I think that men always want to feel number one and that they probably won't get over the thought that she might want someone else more.
BUT I think that you could be her number one, once she starts having a relationship with you. If you are having a happy relationship she has no reason to leave you for someone else, and she will as well has doubts that this other guy might drop her again.

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I think it's still a little too early for him to jump into a relationship with her. She was so in love with her ex that she was willing to throw things away with this guy in order to get back with the ex, but since he didn't want her now she's ready to move on?
Sorry, but I wouldn't chance it. I think she's not over the ex and if he comes back wanting her to be with him, you'll likely be dumped to the side just as you were before.

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Things to do...
  1. You have to get the thought of that person out of your mind. This can be done by getting busy with something else. Make sure you're not left all by yourself with your thoughts.
  2. Always think of the mistakes of the person, this will help you build up a negative perception of that person.
  3. Stay emotional balanced by attending social gatherings (not clubs, or any where where lovers are).
  4. Attend sporting exercises that are a bit physical like lawn tennis, swimming, football etc. This will help shake your thoughts out and bring you out of yourself.
  5. Read the bible and get to know Jesus. (This actually works magically).

Saturday, May 5, 2012

Cheating Issues - What will you do if you caught him cheating? Well many spouses would rather kill their husbands..hehehe, its only a joke.  Let's get serious because it is really a very serious topic especially for a married couple experiencing issues in their relationship.  Solving the problem of your husband who is having an affair requires serious patience and understanding.  You must go to the root on how it all started and  when you have a  good discussion with him you must willing to listen.  What ever is your conclusion to his explanation you must always remember that you are married to him and you have children who love their father too.
Here is a cool explanation of a Married woman regarding that problem:

I just finished reading an excellent book that deals about marriage issues.  The book is entitled: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and was written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I did not buy this book until I heard it from my book lover friends.   They advised me that the book has many good advises about marriage and etc.  Most of my friends are married and they had problems with their husbands, but they said the book helped them to overcome their problems and in fact it changed them to become perfect housewives. So I bought one copy and I started to read it. I saw myself within its pages, I had read the reason on why he changed and the fading of his desire towards me.  The lack of desire  was destructive to not only to  our marriage, but to the well being of our family.  I found out that the reason why he was losing his desire for me was my being too selfish to him.   But after reading the book, I understood ( finally) that  I must loosen some bolts of my behavior, my husband has every right for the betterment of the family and our relationship.  Dr. Laura explained that there are many things we do in life that we are not really in the mood for. for example: do you simply stop working because you are not in the mood to go to work? Does she stop washing or cooking simply because she is not in the mood to do the laundry this month? Or does she let the baby cry and cry because she is tired or not in the mood to care for her child? And I finally understood each person has the need to be loved and cared, and as a family, we must meet these needs for one another.

Here are the best tips from The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands that can help you:

Try to find out the root cause

When you finally could set your mind at rest, talk to him privately. Ask him why he is cheating. Is he bored with you? Has he lost interest to you? Could be that he is cheating because you don’t care about him? Regardless if you still want to be with him or not, knowing the root cause can help you prevent similar incident in the future. Understand this; there are 2 types of man; one that would always looking for some meaningless wild sex and the other that try to find a new romance. Some women might be able to accept the first, but rarely can accept the latter.

Give him a piece of your mind

After hearing all his side of the story from him, now it is your turn to talk. You have the right to yell at him. You are a tsunami of pain, sadness and anger. Take it all out on him. Cheating is by far worse than a polygamous.

Time to decide

When both sides of the stories are told, now it is time to decide. Regardless the root cause of the cheating, you must decide what works best for you. Can you accept & forgive the fact that he had cheated on you? Would you stay by him knowing that there is a chance that he might do that again? Don’t try to keep the broken relationship just because you had been with him for long time. This is personal and the right decision is not the same for all women. If you decide to end the relationship, end it gracefully.

Giving him another chance

If you decide to give him another chance, do not seek for revenge. Having an affair just to get even with him does not make sense. No one would benefit from that. When you have chosen to accept and forgive, payback is not justified. Everybody makes mistake. Since you have made the decision, you should not invoke this matter during future arguments. Evoking the incident is not going to make things better instead it might cause other issues in your relationship.

Seek Counseling

The next step is to seek for couples counseling. It is generally performed by a family therapist. Couples counseling is a confidential and non judgmental process that is aimed to help a couple to better understand and manage problems in the relationship.



Thursday, March 8, 2012

Nurses Talk - There are many couples in these world preffered to have sex anytime and anywhere and forgetting the sanctity of sex. Making sex as part of their daily leisures. And all these happened because of Contraceptives, believing that AIDS can be avoided or controlled if all people who are making love or making lust can have it safely with contraceptives. Condom is one of the well-known conctraceptives, is it safe? Let's find out!
Experts tend to avoid the term 'safe sex' to refer to sex using the condom, because they acknowledge that it does not give 100per cent protection against the various sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
'Safer sex' is now the preferred term.
A Cochrane Review on health care concluded that, with consistent use, condoms are about 80 per cent effective in reducing the risk of HIV infection.
The June 2004 Bulletin of the World Health Organisation noted that with consistent use of the condom, the risk of contracting gonorrhoea was reduced by about 62per cent, and that for chlamydia infection, by only about 26per cent.
Such limited extent of risk reduction is far from being acceptable.
The effectiveness of the condom can be further compromised by the fact that condom breakage and slippage are not uncommon.
A study published in the May 2006 issue of the British Medical Journal revealed that condom slippage was experienced by up to 33per cent of the teens who had used these; and condom breakage, by up to 25 per cent.
Studies have also shown that teenagers are relatively poor users of contraceptives.
There are many reasons why some teens engage in risky sexual behaviour. These include factors such as peer pressure, negative influence of some mass media, poor self-esteem, and poor parent-child relationships.
These should be considered in the design of any sexuality programme that is aimed at our young. It is our duty to provide them with the correct information, so that they can make the right decisions for themselves.-Dr John Hui Keem Peng
"For people who are sexually active, condoms remain our best solution to reducing risks of acquiring sexually transmitted infections (if uninfected) or transmitting these infections (if infected). Despite some inconsistencies in the evidence, studies show that condoms are an effective physical barrier against passage of even the smallest sexually transmitted pathogens," wrote Markus Steiner and Willard Cates of Family Health International.
A recent meta-analysis revealed that condoms really decrease the risk of gonorrhea and chlamydia in both men and women, but also of the genital herpes and human papillomavirus infection, if correctly employed.Many are concerned that the condom use boosts unsafe sexual behavior, but a recent review has not confirmed this."Like any prevention tool (such as seat belts or airbags) condoms are not 100% effective," wrote the authors.Still, people should know that the condom fulfills its mission integrated in the ABC strategy: abstinence, being faithful to one partner, and condom use.Still, "a more comprehensive approach is needed. Condoms cannot be the definitive answer to sexually transmitted infection, because they provide insufficient protection against many common diseases. Intercourse generally involves skin to skin contact in the external genital area not covered by a condom. The main problem with condoms is that average people, particularly teenagers and young adults, do not use them consistently, regardless of knowledge or education," said Stephen Genuis from the University of Alberta. "Numerous large studies where concerted efforts to promote use of condoms has consistently failed to control rates of sexually transmitted infection -- even in countries with advanced sex education programs like Canada, Sweden, and Switzerland."Recent researches proved that changes in sexual behavior (less partners and casual sex, and less appeal to sex workers), rather than condom use, dropped the rate of STDs in countries like Thailand and Cambodia. About 70 % of the STDs around the world occur in teenagers and young adults. "Yet innumerable adolescents saturated with condom focused sex education end up contracting sexually transmitted infections. Although factual information should be included in any discussion of sexually transmitted infections, narrow condom focused initiatives should be replaced with comprehensive evidence-based programs," said Genuis.
So there you have it, best information to answer your question about the condoms. I suggest that you keep you virginity and have your sex when you have your honeymoon. Its very wonderful to have sex to a person you really love and truly respected.


Nurses Talk - Here is a shitty blog on how to end up a good relationship, but i suggest do not do it if you do not have the balls. And you still have the great feelings better not to it. But what about you are almost dead in feelings and believe on nothing anymore. Here is how:
  • First step: You better see you girlfriend or boyfriend in person, and tell your partner about you are breaking up with her or him for real. Doing this is appropriate, than expressing your decision on the phone or text messages, that would surely hurt the person more. 
  • Second Step: You better be strong when you think the relationship is already shaky.  Expect that worst scenarios could possibly come and you better have strength to face it. Plan a few points to cover so that your girlfriend or boyfriend understands everything you are trying to communicate.  It is also effective to take notes if you think it will add assistance to remember, but never read the notes during the actual break up.
  • Third Step: When you do say the words of breaking him or her make it sure in a private place so that your partner is free to cry or let go their emotions. Having a quite place is effective it will give a chance for your partner to express her or his anger without embarrassment. A break up is a hard thing even when both parties want it. There's no reason to make it harder by ending the relationship in a public place.
  • Fourth Step: Better that you keep communicating on everything to your partner regarding the reasons of breaking up, your  partner has the full rights to know.  Stay away from cliches that don't help the process. It is appropriate and healthy to tell the truth out of respect to your soon to be ex-girlfriend. This will help her learn from the relationship and to move on from it.
  • Fifth Step : You better answer all questions your partner will ask from you, this is will give her understanding, which then would give her acceptance. If there aren't particularly hard feelings, you both might want to set up rules about a future friendship. If there are hard feelings,better settle things out, because if not unsettled feelings can cause trouble in your future relationships. Any items left at each other's homes should be accounted for as well as any items owned jointly.
When we are into great relationship breaking up is a stupid idea.  When you think that breaking up is only solution then before doing it, try to evaluate everything first if it is really worth.  Because it is very very sad to think of hurting someone and ourselves too.  Better we seek for positive things before giving up.

Saturday, December 3, 2011

Nurse Talk -  Many nurses work abroad and leave their love ones behind and what is not good to hear is that they are working in the foreign land for many years. You are left alone and of course your mind is going anywhere and maybe you are asking your self - Is she doing good there? 

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Thursday, November 24, 2011

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Nurses TalkI want to do something for me. I want you to imagine that you are married to someone. If you are married to someone you can still participate, just imagine the person you are married to. Now I want you to imagine the point of your marriage where things are rough, difficult, maybe you are not the cute couple you two use to be before. You two use to be sexually active, but now you two are not even sleeping in the same bed. Now I want you to imagine you coming home from work. You get off earlier than usual, and you come home to see a car parked in front of your house. You don't know who it is but you have a feeling like something is not right. Sure enough you enter to find your husband/wife is indeed having a having an affair behind your back.
How do you feel? What do you do? Is this right?

Saturday, October 15, 2011

From somebody:

Noticed these things
1. he no longer wore the same cologne he wore with me for 8 years straight (that had me thinking)
2. his clothing became more designer (now that he is making more money)
3. more time with the "guys"
5. sometimes work late
6. his phone is always glued to his side With a password
7. he stopped telling me things about his family issues or personal stuff etc etc
8. he had new sex moves, and developed a cocky attitude

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If you suspect your dude of cheating, talk to him about it like a woman, as the adult you are. COMMUNICATION FOLKS!!! I know relationships can be complicated, sometimes it's worth working things out and sometimes it's not worth it! Only you can decide, NO ONE, can give you that magic answer! There is no script of exactly what to say to make things right or the way it once was. It simply does not exist.
It always makes me laugh when a woman catches her man cheating, she's all over the woman ready to kick her ass and take names! Finger pointing, hair pulling and so on! Then she turns to her man and says " I love you, how could you?" "What did I do?" When did it become OK for us to accept dishonesty, disrespect and mistrust?
Sometimes, we take each other for granted and it takes situations such as these for us to realize it. In situations such as these giving each space can often cure all evil, but, sometimes it just can't. The definition of insanity = continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Ladies we can't change men! Only he can change himself if he truly wants to and only he must decide that for himself. Quit acting like you'll never find another great relationship if you leave your deceptive partner.
Life always goes on with or without you good or bad. Stay true to yourself and your morals, learn to love yourself and all of your wonderful quirks!
In situations such as these, where your man is being dishonest and sneaking around (this also goes for the men, women are not saints) if it bothers you, address it. Know that, like any child your partner will lie to you at first and tell you what you want to here. If the behaviour continues clearly there is no resolution. Move on, learn to love yourself and move on! At some point these guys will be sorry for losing you and will eventually learn it's not right to be dishonest and selfish. Some men, just know that all that ranting and raving we do as women is just that ranting and raving! That's sad. Stick to your guns ladies you will find love again!
I truly believe we as people were not meant to be in long relationships. Some relationships do indeed test that theory but for the most part we truly can't resist the temptation.
Ladies, get some self confidence, learn to love who you are and what stand up for what you believe. Look in the mirror and get your priorities straight. Don't settle for bullshit. You know when someone is playing you, why give in and play the dummy! Quit acting and get real with yourself. Easier said than done right! It is easy for me to say this, but no one said life would be a walk in the park. Work at it! Don't settle for less for stupidity.
Now fellas, I'm not going to bash or walk all over you because I know there are wonderful, honest, stand up men out there, lots of them too. Hard to find them but they are out there looking for a good woman. It's sucks to be the good guy these days because of posers “boys dressed up as men” such as these!
But to the dudes that find themselves in situations such as these you created this situation. I hate to break it to you but sneaking around and acting funny screams “poser”. Grow up, regain your manhood and learn to communicate what you want. The key to not going through all the harassment, embarrassment, hurt and sneaking around is to be HONEST. Be straight up with woman. Nothing hurts more that finding out the person you thought you knew, isn’t really the person you though you knew. Whatever the reason be honest, break off the relationship if it simply isn’t working. Or, tell you lady the love is lost or you need a break. It again, is easier said than done but you have to keep at it for it become easier. There are so many temptations out there it’s hard to resist, with the grass always looking greener on the other side. It's tough I know, I feel you, but be straight up! And sista, don’t freak out because he’s being honest. Listen to what his saying , appreciate his honest and deal with it as such!
Now fellas, don’t get into a committed relationship if your only gonna fool around the entire time. There is nothing wrong with playing the field but be honest with your ladies so they know where they stand. Allow your lady to hear what you want take the stage with class of course. She’s got a brain too, let her decide if she can handle it or not. Maybe you can work something out, who knows TRY IT!
Women, we need to understand why men do the things they do before we can even attempt to confront a situation like this. Sometimes, we push our dudes away or change on them without expressing it to them and they get lost and confused. Again, only honest communication can address this. We need to grow up people, communication solves great problems! Be forthcoming and face the music good or bad.
People are funny creatures, as we grow life changes, when were young we long to be older and can’t wait to assume all the responsibilities of an adult. When were adults we retreat to behaving like a child and no longer want to assume the responsibility nor consequence.
Ladies, there are great men out there truly there are, they may be hard to find but they are out there. Stop complaining about what has happened to you, stop trying to change your partner, thank the person for opening your eyes and bringing back to reality, stay true to yourself. Brush off your self confidence, get some swagger, get your priorities in order and move on!






Friday, March 18, 2011


Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating: "The Real Signs of a Cheating Spouse

I grew up watching Oprah. I knew the signs of a cheater in high school and caught quite a few boyfriends along the way. But when it came to my marriage, I worked hard to ignore the signs.

I am guessing that you already know the classic signs of a cheating spouse: buying new underwear, taking better care of their appearance, better oral hygiene and all that. That list goes on and on, and these are not the kind of signs I going to discuss.

If you are in what you thought to be a strong and happy marriage, or even a good marriage that is lacking romance and spark, the signs that your spouse is cheating may be even clearer. But you need to open your eyes and see them. Affairs happen even in good marriages. Even good marriages have their weaknesses and a little vulnerability can open the door for a spouse to cheat."

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