Showing posts with label cheating. Show all posts
Showing posts with label cheating. Show all posts

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Should women wait for the right guy?
Should women wait for the right guy?
Should women wait for the right guy? That is the question that we are going to give a damn time to answer.  Ok, let's start first by talking to whom this question is address to.  This question is not for those high school kids who are about to enter a romantic  relationship, or some divorced moms out there.  This is for those twenty something to middle-aged women who are heart broken, but hmm yap it can be applied to anybody.  Anyways,  let me start by sharing that should it worth to wait for the right guy, or should I say is there really a right guy?  When a woman experienced pain from separation, it feels like it is the end of everything and so with the guy, but when it comes to acceptance that you guys are no longer together, well it depends on how you handle the situation.  I am no psychology shit, but my experienced thought  me a lot and not only that, I have also did some observation and analysis to some of my friends in terms on how they cope with their situation and be able to feel love again.  

Wednesday, August 15, 2012


Just because you’re single, doesn’t mean you should be sad
Author:  the Teapot

In the world we're living in today, having a partner is pretty much a big deal. It's like everywhere we look there are couples holding hands, guys holding their girlfriends' handbags, and other actions that show "affection". Single guys and single girls often go "chick hunting" or even "Hot chunky man hunting" just to find a partner. This boyfriend-girlfriend trend has taken over the minds of our youth. I'm not saying that it is bad to be in love or that love is bad. But the fact that we can't be satisfied with being single is bad because it is unfair to look for contentment and satisfaction from other people.
We all have this idea that we will be happy when we have a boyfriend or a girlfriend. And to most single people, they feel sad and degraded whenever they see a couple. Being in a relationship doesn't instantly mean that you are happy. Because no matter what, if you're not happy with what you have, if you're not happy with yourself, you will never be happy with or without a partner. Sooner or later you will come to realize that you aren't contented with your partner and that will lead to cheating which will lead to more problems. We have to know that it's better to be happy alone rather than be with someone, yet you're unhappy.

Sunday, July 1, 2012


Human Brain Analysis - Man vs. Woman

1. MULTI-TASKING
Women - Multiple process
Womens brains designed to concentrate multiple task at a time.
Women can Watch a TV and Talk over phone and cook.
Men - Single Process
Mens brains designed to concentrate only one work at a time. Men can not watch TV and talk over the phone at the same time. they stop the TV while Talking. They can either watch TV or talk over the phone or cook.


Wednesday, May 23, 2012

We all say that love is the reason why two people stick together, but if love starts moving to somebody else, well its gonna be a big problem.  The feeling of losing  your feelings to your partner (boyfriend or girlfriend)  is the reason why there are so many cheating cases happening in this world.  Love is the food in every relationship we should always feed it with affection, understanding, care, etc.  If love is gone anything could happen that will surely destroy the wonderful relationship you have.  So if your feeling starts fading then be responsible not to give up so easily on your relationship, there is always a solution and there is always a way to bring that feelings alive again.  So here are great stories about how to handle situation like this.
Here are reliable answers from our friends online on how to handle yourself when your love one is in love to someone else:
She seems unsure as to act on her feelings even though she most likely knows how you feel too. She probably does like someone else because it is possible but i would wait if you really want to be with her. If she is sure that she would want to be with you she would not hold back and so she is unsure at the moment.
Just wait for her and if you do, she'll definitely come around to find that you are willing to wait for her.

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I'm the girl in your situation. I'm in love with someone but i cant have him and i know that. its almost impossible for me to think about liking anyone else but finally i found a guy that i think i may really actually like, so i told him my situation. I'm obviously not going to fall out of love with the other guy immediately but having a new guy to get to know and have fun with is really helpping me move on from my first love. I'm not using him by any means...i actually really do like him and he understands whats going on with me. give her time...she does like you and she will eventually get over the other guy. just make sure you don't hurt her.
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It's possible to love someone who loves someone else. It happens all the time. It's not a healthy situation to be in and can be quite miserable. Look at it this way. There is someone out there who would love for you to love THEM. If the one you are in love with now loves someone else there's nothing you can do. He or she may be in that very situation too for all you know - the person he or she loves may love someone else. You deserve to be loved just like everyone else and while I know you can't just suddenly stop loving someone you have to live your life the best that you can. Get out and enjoy your life, socialize, try your best to have fun. If the relationship is meant to be it eventually will be. But in the meantime don't stop living your life for this person. I wasted over two years of my life for someone who couldn't care less about me, was almost ruined financially because he caused me to lose my job, I was forced to take a horrible job (no other jobs were available) wherein I was required to work hundreds of hours overtime in a year and never got paid for it (not yet at least), and was the subject of verbal abuse and intimidation at the horrible job I had to take in order to support myself. I walked around in a fog - in LaLa Land, totally in love with the person and making excuses for his behavior. I never did anything wrong to deserve what I got. Never got an explanation. No apology. Nothing. I finally realized that he was rocking along enjoying his life, doing well in his career, and probably never gave me a second thought after drop-kicking me into the twilight zone. So try this: Place a value on yourself. Realize that you deserve love, you are capable of loving someone, and you have a lot to offer someone. Do not waste your time mooning over someone who is probably off enjoying his life with someone else. This doesn't mean you are supposed to instantly stop loving that person but over time you will learn to live with it and will move past it. Someone eventually will come along who WILL love you, appreciate you, and will sweep you off your feet! I've heard of a country song (I'm not a country music fan) but it's called Thank God for Unanswered Prayers. I've never even heard all of the song but I can say from experience that it's a good title. There have been so many times that I was grateful a few prayers of mine weren't answered as I found out later that the job I really, really wanted ended up being a horrible job with a horrible boss and a high turnover - they couldn't keep one single person there. Another time was over a guy. I was in my early 20s. I thought he was "it on a stick." I found out much later that what he pretended to be and what he actually was were two totally different things. I was very thankful that prayer wasn't answered too. Life is too short. Live your life as best you can. Things will work out the way they are supposed to.
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I think that men always want to feel number one and that they probably won't get over the thought that she might want someone else more.
BUT I think that you could be her number one, once she starts having a relationship with you. If you are having a happy relationship she has no reason to leave you for someone else, and she will as well has doubts that this other guy might drop her again.

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I think it's still a little too early for him to jump into a relationship with her. She was so in love with her ex that she was willing to throw things away with this guy in order to get back with the ex, but since he didn't want her now she's ready to move on?
Sorry, but I wouldn't chance it. I think she's not over the ex and if he comes back wanting her to be with him, you'll likely be dumped to the side just as you were before.

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Things to do...
  1. You have to get the thought of that person out of your mind. This can be done by getting busy with something else. Make sure you're not left all by yourself with your thoughts.
  2. Always think of the mistakes of the person, this will help you build up a negative perception of that person.
  3. Stay emotional balanced by attending social gatherings (not clubs, or any where where lovers are).
  4. Attend sporting exercises that are a bit physical like lawn tennis, swimming, football etc. This will help shake your thoughts out and bring you out of yourself.
  5. Read the bible and get to know Jesus. (This actually works magically).

Saturday, May 5, 2012

The women pride can kill a man
Women are known to be full of pride and that’s what makes them different from men.  Men do have pride same as women, but men can control of it for the sake of love and devotion.   In every relationship there are many scenarios that men almost got killed because of women’s pride and this is not a joke.  When a man falls in love to a woman he would do everything just to express his feelings and love to that lucky girl and that includes giving up his pride.

Many preachers today focused on pride as being one of the most damaging aspects of the human behavior.  But I would say that depends on to what level you use your pride, some say it could cause sin and could misguide a person.  In a couple’s quarrel pride is the driving force that worsens the condition and in most cases men are the ones surrendering their pride just to end the fight.



Most women put their pride as a very essential thing to everything they do and think.   For instance, when dating and you are late for 5 minutes you better start looking for white roses and practice your  apology, because she is no longer smiling when you see her. Women with pride would not think of your 5 minutes late as a mere natural or unexpected mistake,  but rather an act of betrayal and insincerity to your promises.  Sometimes they only value your politeness and obedience, while your health and safety are being left aside.    They keep telling you what is right for you, and when you advise what's best for them -- they won't listen.   Pride thought them to be superior when they are not, gives them strength when in reality they are weak.  How do you think your relationship would survive if your girlfriend is full of pride?  

How many cases of suicides that struck the world? Many of these suicides were caused of love quarrels and misunderstanding and it is always men have the number of deaths by suicide.   I have witnessed many relationships that men acted like a slave to their women. I don’t think that men deserve to be a slave for the heck of love, but I think that is how the game is played in a relationship.
Because of pride most Women are blinded by the reality that their men have sacrificed everything for them.   Pride makes the woman authoritarian on her decision making, it makes her to demand and demand.  A good relationship should learn to embrace love instead of pride and there you can find real happiness in your relationship.  Our women should be a bit pragmatic on every decision they make and more patience in every hostile situations. Pride kills understanding and patience, and the worst thing it murders Forgiveness.

The root of cheating in relationship is not always because of selfishness of the opposite sex, but because of pride. 


Cheating Issues - What will you do if you caught him cheating? Well many spouses would rather kill their husbands..hehehe, its only a joke.  Let's get serious because it is really a very serious topic especially for a married couple experiencing issues in their relationship.  Solving the problem of your husband who is having an affair requires serious patience and understanding.  You must go to the root on how it all started and  when you have a  good discussion with him you must willing to listen.  What ever is your conclusion to his explanation you must always remember that you are married to him and you have children who love their father too.
Here is a cool explanation of a Married woman regarding that problem:

I just finished reading an excellent book that deals about marriage issues.  The book is entitled: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and was written by Dr. Laura Schlessinger. I did not buy this book until I heard it from my book lover friends.   They advised me that the book has many good advises about marriage and etc.  Most of my friends are married and they had problems with their husbands, but they said the book helped them to overcome their problems and in fact it changed them to become perfect housewives. So I bought one copy and I started to read it. I saw myself within its pages, I had read the reason on why he changed and the fading of his desire towards me.  The lack of desire  was destructive to not only to  our marriage, but to the well being of our family.  I found out that the reason why he was losing his desire for me was my being too selfish to him.   But after reading the book, I understood ( finally) that  I must loosen some bolts of my behavior, my husband has every right for the betterment of the family and our relationship.  Dr. Laura explained that there are many things we do in life that we are not really in the mood for. for example: do you simply stop working because you are not in the mood to go to work? Does she stop washing or cooking simply because she is not in the mood to do the laundry this month? Or does she let the baby cry and cry because she is tired or not in the mood to care for her child? And I finally understood each person has the need to be loved and cared, and as a family, we must meet these needs for one another.

Here are the best tips from The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands that can help you:

Try to find out the root cause

When you finally could set your mind at rest, talk to him privately. Ask him why he is cheating. Is he bored with you? Has he lost interest to you? Could be that he is cheating because you don’t care about him? Regardless if you still want to be with him or not, knowing the root cause can help you prevent similar incident in the future. Understand this; there are 2 types of man; one that would always looking for some meaningless wild sex and the other that try to find a new romance. Some women might be able to accept the first, but rarely can accept the latter.

Give him a piece of your mind

After hearing all his side of the story from him, now it is your turn to talk. You have the right to yell at him. You are a tsunami of pain, sadness and anger. Take it all out on him. Cheating is by far worse than a polygamous.

Time to decide

When both sides of the stories are told, now it is time to decide. Regardless the root cause of the cheating, you must decide what works best for you. Can you accept & forgive the fact that he had cheated on you? Would you stay by him knowing that there is a chance that he might do that again? Don’t try to keep the broken relationship just because you had been with him for long time. This is personal and the right decision is not the same for all women. If you decide to end the relationship, end it gracefully.

Giving him another chance

If you decide to give him another chance, do not seek for revenge. Having an affair just to get even with him does not make sense. No one would benefit from that. When you have chosen to accept and forgive, payback is not justified. Everybody makes mistake. Since you have made the decision, you should not invoke this matter during future arguments. Evoking the incident is not going to make things better instead it might cause other issues in your relationship.

Seek Counseling

The next step is to seek for couples counseling. It is generally performed by a family therapist. Couples counseling is a confidential and non judgmental process that is aimed to help a couple to better understand and manage problems in the relationship.



Thursday, November 24, 2011

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Nurses TalkI want to do something for me. I want you to imagine that you are married to someone. If you are married to someone you can still participate, just imagine the person you are married to. Now I want you to imagine the point of your marriage where things are rough, difficult, maybe you are not the cute couple you two use to be before. You two use to be sexually active, but now you two are not even sleeping in the same bed. Now I want you to imagine you coming home from work. You get off earlier than usual, and you come home to see a car parked in front of your house. You don't know who it is but you have a feeling like something is not right. Sure enough you enter to find your husband/wife is indeed having a having an affair behind your back.
How do you feel? What do you do? Is this right?

Saturday, October 15, 2011

From somebody:

Noticed these things
1. he no longer wore the same cologne he wore with me for 8 years straight (that had me thinking)
2. his clothing became more designer (now that he is making more money)
3. more time with the "guys"
5. sometimes work late
6. his phone is always glued to his side With a password
7. he stopped telling me things about his family issues or personal stuff etc etc
8. he had new sex moves, and developed a cocky attitude

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If you suspect your dude of cheating, talk to him about it like a woman, as the adult you are. COMMUNICATION FOLKS!!! I know relationships can be complicated, sometimes it's worth working things out and sometimes it's not worth it! Only you can decide, NO ONE, can give you that magic answer! There is no script of exactly what to say to make things right or the way it once was. It simply does not exist.
It always makes me laugh when a woman catches her man cheating, she's all over the woman ready to kick her ass and take names! Finger pointing, hair pulling and so on! Then she turns to her man and says " I love you, how could you?" "What did I do?" When did it become OK for us to accept dishonesty, disrespect and mistrust?
Sometimes, we take each other for granted and it takes situations such as these for us to realize it. In situations such as these giving each space can often cure all evil, but, sometimes it just can't. The definition of insanity = continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Ladies we can't change men! Only he can change himself if he truly wants to and only he must decide that for himself. Quit acting like you'll never find another great relationship if you leave your deceptive partner.
Life always goes on with or without you good or bad. Stay true to yourself and your morals, learn to love yourself and all of your wonderful quirks!
In situations such as these, where your man is being dishonest and sneaking around (this also goes for the men, women are not saints) if it bothers you, address it. Know that, like any child your partner will lie to you at first and tell you what you want to here. If the behaviour continues clearly there is no resolution. Move on, learn to love yourself and move on! At some point these guys will be sorry for losing you and will eventually learn it's not right to be dishonest and selfish. Some men, just know that all that ranting and raving we do as women is just that ranting and raving! That's sad. Stick to your guns ladies you will find love again!
I truly believe we as people were not meant to be in long relationships. Some relationships do indeed test that theory but for the most part we truly can't resist the temptation.
Ladies, get some self confidence, learn to love who you are and what stand up for what you believe. Look in the mirror and get your priorities straight. Don't settle for bullshit. You know when someone is playing you, why give in and play the dummy! Quit acting and get real with yourself. Easier said than done right! It is easy for me to say this, but no one said life would be a walk in the park. Work at it! Don't settle for less for stupidity.
Now fellas, I'm not going to bash or walk all over you because I know there are wonderful, honest, stand up men out there, lots of them too. Hard to find them but they are out there looking for a good woman. It's sucks to be the good guy these days because of posers “boys dressed up as men” such as these!
But to the dudes that find themselves in situations such as these you created this situation. I hate to break it to you but sneaking around and acting funny screams “poser”. Grow up, regain your manhood and learn to communicate what you want. The key to not going through all the harassment, embarrassment, hurt and sneaking around is to be HONEST. Be straight up with woman. Nothing hurts more that finding out the person you thought you knew, isn’t really the person you though you knew. Whatever the reason be honest, break off the relationship if it simply isn’t working. Or, tell you lady the love is lost or you need a break. It again, is easier said than done but you have to keep at it for it become easier. There are so many temptations out there it’s hard to resist, with the grass always looking greener on the other side. It's tough I know, I feel you, but be straight up! And sista, don’t freak out because he’s being honest. Listen to what his saying , appreciate his honest and deal with it as such!
Now fellas, don’t get into a committed relationship if your only gonna fool around the entire time. There is nothing wrong with playing the field but be honest with your ladies so they know where they stand. Allow your lady to hear what you want take the stage with class of course. She’s got a brain too, let her decide if she can handle it or not. Maybe you can work something out, who knows TRY IT!
Women, we need to understand why men do the things they do before we can even attempt to confront a situation like this. Sometimes, we push our dudes away or change on them without expressing it to them and they get lost and confused. Again, only honest communication can address this. We need to grow up people, communication solves great problems! Be forthcoming and face the music good or bad.
People are funny creatures, as we grow life changes, when were young we long to be older and can’t wait to assume all the responsibilities of an adult. When were adults we retreat to behaving like a child and no longer want to assume the responsibility nor consequence.
Ladies, there are great men out there truly there are, they may be hard to find but they are out there. Stop complaining about what has happened to you, stop trying to change your partner, thank the person for opening your eyes and bringing back to reality, stay true to yourself. Brush off your self confidence, get some swagger, get your priorities in order and move on!






Friday, March 18, 2011


Signs Your Spouse Is Cheating: "The Real Signs of a Cheating Spouse

I grew up watching Oprah. I knew the signs of a cheater in high school and caught quite a few boyfriends along the way. But when it came to my marriage, I worked hard to ignore the signs.

I am guessing that you already know the classic signs of a cheating spouse: buying new underwear, taking better care of their appearance, better oral hygiene and all that. That list goes on and on, and these are not the kind of signs I going to discuss.

If you are in what you thought to be a strong and happy marriage, or even a good marriage that is lacking romance and spark, the signs that your spouse is cheating may be even clearer. But you need to open your eyes and see them. Affairs happen even in good marriages. Even good marriages have their weaknesses and a little vulnerability can open the door for a spouse to cheat."

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