Showing posts with label breaking away. Show all posts
Showing posts with label breaking away. Show all posts

Thursday, March 8, 2012

Nurses Talk - Here is a shitty blog on how to end up a good relationship, but i suggest do not do it if you do not have the balls. And you still have the great feelings better not to it. But what about you are almost dead in feelings and believe on nothing anymore. Here is how:
  • First step: You better see you girlfriend or boyfriend in person, and tell your partner about you are breaking up with her or him for real. Doing this is appropriate, than expressing your decision on the phone or text messages, that would surely hurt the person more. 
  • Second Step: You better be strong when you think the relationship is already shaky.  Expect that worst scenarios could possibly come and you better have strength to face it. Plan a few points to cover so that your girlfriend or boyfriend understands everything you are trying to communicate.  It is also effective to take notes if you think it will add assistance to remember, but never read the notes during the actual break up.
  • Third Step: When you do say the words of breaking him or her make it sure in a private place so that your partner is free to cry or let go their emotions. Having a quite place is effective it will give a chance for your partner to express her or his anger without embarrassment. A break up is a hard thing even when both parties want it. There's no reason to make it harder by ending the relationship in a public place.
  • Fourth Step: Better that you keep communicating on everything to your partner regarding the reasons of breaking up, your  partner has the full rights to know.  Stay away from cliches that don't help the process. It is appropriate and healthy to tell the truth out of respect to your soon to be ex-girlfriend. This will help her learn from the relationship and to move on from it.
  • Fifth Step : You better answer all questions your partner will ask from you, this is will give her understanding, which then would give her acceptance. If there aren't particularly hard feelings, you both might want to set up rules about a future friendship. If there are hard feelings,better settle things out, because if not unsettled feelings can cause trouble in your future relationships. Any items left at each other's homes should be accounted for as well as any items owned jointly.
When we are into great relationship breaking up is a stupid idea.  When you think that breaking up is only solution then before doing it, try to evaluate everything first if it is really worth.  Because it is very very sad to think of hurting someone and ourselves too.  Better we seek for positive things before giving up.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

From somebody:

Noticed these things
1. he no longer wore the same cologne he wore with me for 8 years straight (that had me thinking)
2. his clothing became more designer (now that he is making more money)
3. more time with the "guys"
5. sometimes work late
6. his phone is always glued to his side With a password
7. he stopped telling me things about his family issues or personal stuff etc etc
8. he had new sex moves, and developed a cocky attitude

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If you suspect your dude of cheating, talk to him about it like a woman, as the adult you are. COMMUNICATION FOLKS!!! I know relationships can be complicated, sometimes it's worth working things out and sometimes it's not worth it! Only you can decide, NO ONE, can give you that magic answer! There is no script of exactly what to say to make things right or the way it once was. It simply does not exist.
It always makes me laugh when a woman catches her man cheating, she's all over the woman ready to kick her ass and take names! Finger pointing, hair pulling and so on! Then she turns to her man and says " I love you, how could you?" "What did I do?" When did it become OK for us to accept dishonesty, disrespect and mistrust?
Sometimes, we take each other for granted and it takes situations such as these for us to realize it. In situations such as these giving each space can often cure all evil, but, sometimes it just can't. The definition of insanity = continuing to do the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Ladies we can't change men! Only he can change himself if he truly wants to and only he must decide that for himself. Quit acting like you'll never find another great relationship if you leave your deceptive partner.
Life always goes on with or without you good or bad. Stay true to yourself and your morals, learn to love yourself and all of your wonderful quirks!
In situations such as these, where your man is being dishonest and sneaking around (this also goes for the men, women are not saints) if it bothers you, address it. Know that, like any child your partner will lie to you at first and tell you what you want to here. If the behaviour continues clearly there is no resolution. Move on, learn to love yourself and move on! At some point these guys will be sorry for losing you and will eventually learn it's not right to be dishonest and selfish. Some men, just know that all that ranting and raving we do as women is just that ranting and raving! That's sad. Stick to your guns ladies you will find love again!
I truly believe we as people were not meant to be in long relationships. Some relationships do indeed test that theory but for the most part we truly can't resist the temptation.
Ladies, get some self confidence, learn to love who you are and what stand up for what you believe. Look in the mirror and get your priorities straight. Don't settle for bullshit. You know when someone is playing you, why give in and play the dummy! Quit acting and get real with yourself. Easier said than done right! It is easy for me to say this, but no one said life would be a walk in the park. Work at it! Don't settle for less for stupidity.
Now fellas, I'm not going to bash or walk all over you because I know there are wonderful, honest, stand up men out there, lots of them too. Hard to find them but they are out there looking for a good woman. It's sucks to be the good guy these days because of posers “boys dressed up as men” such as these!
But to the dudes that find themselves in situations such as these you created this situation. I hate to break it to you but sneaking around and acting funny screams “poser”. Grow up, regain your manhood and learn to communicate what you want. The key to not going through all the harassment, embarrassment, hurt and sneaking around is to be HONEST. Be straight up with woman. Nothing hurts more that finding out the person you thought you knew, isn’t really the person you though you knew. Whatever the reason be honest, break off the relationship if it simply isn’t working. Or, tell you lady the love is lost or you need a break. It again, is easier said than done but you have to keep at it for it become easier. There are so many temptations out there it’s hard to resist, with the grass always looking greener on the other side. It's tough I know, I feel you, but be straight up! And sista, don’t freak out because he’s being honest. Listen to what his saying , appreciate his honest and deal with it as such!
Now fellas, don’t get into a committed relationship if your only gonna fool around the entire time. There is nothing wrong with playing the field but be honest with your ladies so they know where they stand. Allow your lady to hear what you want take the stage with class of course. She’s got a brain too, let her decide if she can handle it or not. Maybe you can work something out, who knows TRY IT!
Women, we need to understand why men do the things they do before we can even attempt to confront a situation like this. Sometimes, we push our dudes away or change on them without expressing it to them and they get lost and confused. Again, only honest communication can address this. We need to grow up people, communication solves great problems! Be forthcoming and face the music good or bad.
People are funny creatures, as we grow life changes, when were young we long to be older and can’t wait to assume all the responsibilities of an adult. When were adults we retreat to behaving like a child and no longer want to assume the responsibility nor consequence.
Ladies, there are great men out there truly there are, they may be hard to find but they are out there. Stop complaining about what has happened to you, stop trying to change your partner, thank the person for opening your eyes and bringing back to reality, stay true to yourself. Brush off your self confidence, get some swagger, get your priorities in order and move on!






Thursday, July 14, 2011

10 Ways to Heal Spiritually after Breakup: "Breakups aren't great for the self-esteem. If you did the breaking up, you might feel like a callous jerk. If you were dumped, you might feel un-loveable. Sit down in a quiet place with your journal or a piece of paper and write yourself reminders of what you like about yourself. That's not to say there aren't lessons to be learned from every breakup, but you should come away feeling like the good and special person that you truly are."

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